Butler High Conflict Divorce Lawyer
In the best of times, divorce can be difficult, highly emotional, and stressful. In the worst of times, they can be downright vicious, with each party vehemently contesting every aspect of the divorce proceedings as if the fate of the world depends upon it. While you may be willing to make compromises, it does not matter if your spouse refused to listen to reason. In the scenarios, spouses generally become more and more entrenched in their side, and find it impossible to meet anywhere in the middle. For a high conflict divorce, you need to work with our Butler high conflict divorce lawyers as we have more than 100 years of combined experience handling all types of divorce and family law matters.
Common Elements of a Toxic or High Conflict Divorce
Toxic divorces often take years to resolve, as neither party is willing to concede to the other’s demands or requests. Often, one spouse is more willing to resolve issues amicable, at least early on, but the other is not, and refuses to cooperate. This party may even be using their unwillingness to cooperate as a method to continue asserting control over their spouse’s life. In other situations, both parties may be equally uncooperative. It is not uncommon for spouses to act in illegal or harmful ways during toxic divorces, which can actually have a significant (and damaging) impact on the divorce order success of that party’s outcome According to Psychology Today, toxic divorces often include:
- Stalking;
- Harassment;
- Physical or emotional threats;
- Hiding marital assets;
- Intentional damage to the other party’s reputation;
- Damaging personal property; and
- Alienating children from the other parent.
Child Custody is Often the Most Contentious Issue
Whatever the reason for the contentious divorce, whether there are allegations of infidelity or a culture of hostility that has grown for years, children pick up on it. While staying in a toxic marriage is worse for children than divorce, according to Psychology Today, a prolonged high conflict divorce can leave life-long scars on young children, particularly when the main point of contention surrounds child custody and visitation. Our attorneys are skilled at mitigating conflict when possible, and working to resolve seemingly immovable disagreements between parents. If necessary, we are more than willing to take the matter before a judge to prove that your legal or physical custody is in your child’s best interest.
How to Keep Your Composure and Mitigate Conflict
Not only will keeping conflict and stress to a minimum be beneficial to your and your child’s emotional and physical health, but it will also help bring the divorce to a closure sooner rather than later. Additionally, if you present yourself as calm, rational, and willing to compromise, while your spouse is acting out, yelling, and going around spreading rumors about you, a judge is much more willing to take your side. Tips for keeping calm, taking the high road, and improving your chances of success include:
- Avoid taking petty revenge;
- Keep your emotions out of public view;
- Do not trash talk;
- Do not talk about the other parent in front of your child;
- Do not post anything sensitive on social media;
- Show that you are willing to cooperate whenever you can;
- Focus your attention on what you care about most—if you care most about child custody and the family home, limit your energy on trying to walk away with the majority of the retirement account; and
- Trust your attorney.
Call a Butler High Conflict Divorce Lawyer
For a high conflict divorce, you need to work with an experienced attorney who is ready to litigate the matter in court if necessary. Here at Bunde & Roberts, P.C., we have more than 100 years of combined experience handling all types of divorce and family law matters. Contact Bunde & Roberts, P.C. today at 412-391-4330 to schedule a consultation.
